Gio Comes Home

Iain Dale talks about how he and his partner are coping with a dogless house.

16 Jul 2011, 09:40

19_large Still missing him terribly
Just over a fortnight ago, the last blogpost I wrote on my old blog was devoted to a tribute to my Jack Russell, Gio. He had died, less than twenty four hours earlier. I make no apology for returning to the subject today. I have been incredibly touched by the letters and emails I have received from readers from all over the world. Indeed, never has a blogpost provoked such an emotional reaction. I guess everyone who has ever owned a pet could relate to the terrible experience John and I were going through.

It is a cliché, I know, but time is a healer, and it dims the pain. But it will take some time for the grieving process to finish. The house seems to so empty. No pit patter of tiny paw on the floorboards, warning of an imminent arrival. No barking when dinner is ready. No fur to hoover up from the red carpet every day. No dog bowl by the kitchen sink. No smell of dog in my office. There are so many reminders of the little beast who filled our lives with such joy.

I wanted to bury Gio on my parents’ farm in Essex – the place I still call home. It’s a property that’s never likely to leave my family and Gio used to love going there and playing with his Jack Russell ‘cousin’ Spike. But John insisted that we should have him cremated and keep his ashes in a box. I’ve never liked the idea of cremation and have always thought there was something vaguely barbaric about it. I’ve got it written in my own will that I am to be buried, not cremated. Indeed, I do everything I can to avoid going to any funeral that takes place in a crematorium. The sight of the coffin disappearing is one of the most horrific things a human being can experience. Anyway, in the end I agreed to it, and on Thursday Gio came home. Or at least his ashes did. In some ways, there’s something vaguely comforting about the fact that he is back in his own domain and that if I want to I can go and sit by his little box and have a chat with him. The trouble is, every time I do that, I know that the waterworks will start again.

Many kind people said we were wrong to think that getting a new dog would be betraying Gio’s memory. In fact they were very persuasive. No dog can ever replace Gio, but we have now decided that in the autumn we will welcome not one, but two new dogs into our lives. We’ll get another rescue Jack Russell and we’ve already chosen a mini Schnauzer. They will be company for each other. But they have a lot to live up to!
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Very nice piece, Iain. I know very well how you feel - it's so painful to watch your dog fade away, you feel so helpless. But well done for getting another Jack Russell. I grew up with Alsatians and for many years I was rather snooty about small dogs. Still am, in fact, to a degree - but since we got a Jack Russell I've been happy to make an exception to my prejudice. They are so packed with fun and personality that they never fail to brighten up your day. And with two dogs in the house you won't have much time to grieve over Gio!

16/07/2011 09:48
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Hi Ian, I read your blogpost about Gio dying and cried buckets! I have an 8 year old Westie who means the world to me and is as much a part of the family as my children are, so I totally understand how you are feeling and I dread the day my little pal leaves us. Losing Gio has left a big gap in your lives but happy memories of him will stay with you forever. Remember you gave him a long and happy life which is all you can do. I know your new additions will give you as much love and happiness although of course they will never replace Gio.

16/07/2011 10:09
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Hi Iain,

I missed your post on Gio's death. Having lost two of my dogs in the past three years, the empty house, all the small things like the dog bowl, the hair on the carpet, the muddy paw prints, I missed as much as you do. I took weeks before I brought myself to wash a little rug which bore the last muddy paw prints of my second dog.

Mine too were cremated. As you did, I thought this was rather abhorrent. Then, I thought, I could go and scatter the ashed at their favourite places.
When I got the lovely box back, I couldn't open it. A week later, I looked inside, to see what sort of container it was. It was a lovely, round terracotta vessel, and the very first thought that came into my mind was that my dog is inside, all curled up, sleeping, just as he did in his box. So I kept him there, no scattering of ashes. Didn't want to disturb his sleep.

Sentimental? To be sure! But so what! Our dogs are worth our emotions.

I'm glad you're getting another rescue dog, and a companion as well. You'll never forget Gio, but what you learned from him will stand you in good stead when settling your new dogs in your home.

16/07/2011 19:31

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