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ConHome Diary: Who Will Lead the LEAVE Campaign?

15 Jan 2016 at 13:45

On Wednesday afternoon I hosted the first of Alex Salmond’s weekly phone-ins on my LBC Drivetime show. Whenever you do something new on the radio there’s always a slight nervousness that it might not work and go terribly wrong. Let’s put it this way, some politicians are more natural broadcasters than others. We’ve done a lot of political phone-ins over the last two or three years, some working better than others. When it was first suggested that we should do one with Alex Salmond I was as confident as I could be that he would be a natural, and so it proved to be. He had, however, made a hostage to fortune by promising to give straight answers and shoot from the hip. The first caller, Paul in St Albans, really put Salmond on the spot by pointing out that the fall in the oil price would have left a giant £9 billion hole in the SNP’s first budget, and he quite naturally asked how he would have filled it. [see the video clip above] He wriggled, and he wriggled again, so I was forced to point out that he had promised to give a straight answer, and so far he hadn’t. Later on I asked him if he thought a commitment to a second referendum should be included in the SNP’s manifesto for the Scottish Parliament elections next May. “It’s a question for Nicola Sturgeon,” he said. “No, I’m asking for your opinion,” I responded. But answer came there none. So, straight talking unless it concerns independence or the possibility of disagreeing with the SNP party line. But this is where phone-ins really provide something different to normal political interviews, because callers operate by different rules to interviewers. They can put a politician on the spot in the way that interviewers often can’t.
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I am very troubled by the Durham university rape case where a student was this week acquitted of raping a girl. I’m not going to name him here because it’s bad enough that his name is still being plastered across the papers even though he has been cleared. This is the latest in a line of similar cases where a woman has made an allegation which a jury has taken very little time to decide was spurious or malicious. The woman’s name still remains secret, yet the man involved will forever be associated with being accused of rape. Google his name in ten years’ time and that’s the first thing that will come up. I’m not a lawyer and I don’t have the answer to this. The police and CPS have a duty to investigate any allegation of rape, but in this case and others you do wonder why the CPS even brought the case. The biggest issue here is that cases like this make it even more difficult for people who genuinely have been raped to think that they will be treated sympathetically and fairly. The woman involved in the Durham case should hang her head in shame.
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So Boris Johnson has ruled himself out of leading the LEAVE campaign in the EU Referendum. He didn’t do it quite as bluntly but he has described himself as “not an outer”. I doubt whether he was talking about his belly button. I also can’t really see Theresa May leading the campaign. No one has so far been able to find any particularly Eurosceptic comments from her in her 18 years in parliament. So who could lead the LEAVE campaign, because they do need someone who is popular with the public and not frothing at the mouth. What they can’t have is a campaign full of spokespeople who might have looked at home at a John Redwood leadership campaign launch. For younger readers, look it up on Google. The STAY campaign will have David Cameron, Alan Johnson and many other people who look and sound perfectly reasonable and are good on the media. While Nigel Farage must play a very prominent role in the LEAVE campaign, he cannot do it on his own. He’s the man to mop up the core Eurosceptic vote, but his appeal isn’t necessarily going to hit home with all the people the LEAVE campaign will need to embrace if it is to win. But then again, if the two different LEAVE campaigns can’t unite, then I’m afraid their cause may well fall at the first hurdle. That’s partly why the PM will want an early referendum. I should say that I haven’t made up my mind as to how I would vote. My heart says leave but my head still needs some convincing. The question is, who best to persuade me?
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It was rather heartening that David Mundell’s ‘coming out’ was greeted with a giant ‘meh’. OK, there was quite a bit of newspaper coverage. Mainly because he’s the first gay Tory cabinet minister [Nick Herbert only ‘attended’ cabinet]. We’ll know when things have really changed when a) a politician doesn’t feel the need to make a public statement and b) when newspapers don’t comment on it. I suspect that day is still a fair way off. I read somewhere the other day that the House of Commons has the highest per centage of out gay MPs of any legislature in the world. I’m not sure what conclusion to draw from that other than this country’s more liberal approach to these things is allowing politicians to be themselves. There are other sectors of our society which could learn a lot from the tolerance displayed in the political world.
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I’ve just re-read what I’ve written today. I think I must have had a sense of humour bypass this week. I promise that next week the usual diet of sniggering and smut will be back.

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WATCH: The Inaugural Alex Salmond Phone-in on LBC

13 Jan 2016 at 20:46

This is the full length video of the inaugural Alex Salmond phone-in which I hosted today on LBC. I thoroughly enjoyed it. Good reaction on Twitter too.

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ConHome Diary: Winston McKenzie Enters the Big Brother House

8 Jan 2016 at 13:40

So serial party defector Winston McKenzie has joined the Big Brother house. What could possibly go wrong? He’s been a member of every political party apart from Labour. In the autumn he left UKIP to join the poor old English Democrats. What on earth did they do to deserve that? In a parting shot he accused the UKIP top echelons of UKIP of racism for failing to see the merits of selecting him as their candidate for Mayor of London. This was a repeat of what happened in 2008 when he inexplicably lost out to Boris in the Tory mayoral contest. When he announced he was joining UKIP I remember speaking to Nigel Farage and suggesting he might find Winston too hot to handle. It was one in a series of warning to the UKIP leader about several people who decided to use UKIP to further their ambitions. He ignored every one of them and has lived to regret it. I have little doubt that McKenzie won’t last the course in the Big Brother house. His loathsome character will be the undoing of him.
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So Keith Vaz deleted his Twitter and Facebook accounts, leading to all sorts of speculation as to why he has done it, given the size of his ego and willingness to comment on any issue at the drop of a hat. I imagine he was quickly suffering from cold turkey syndrome because yesterday morning he created a new Twitter account. Curiouser and curiouser.
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The last time I did a major interview with Alex Salmond it got him into a bit of trouble with the reptiles north of the border. He had the temerity to suggest that Margaret Thatcher wasn’t all bad. Cue stooshie after stooshie in the Scottish press. It dominated the headlines for three days. So I was more than gruntled to announce last week that from Wednesday he’ll be doing a weekly phone-in with me on my radio show on LBC. So excited is Chris Grayling by the prospect that he told the House of Commons in business questions yesterday that he’d be listening. Whatever you think of Alex Salmond’s politics he will be a class act on the radio. He did point out to me that maybe our station moniker of ‘Leading Britain’s Conversation’ should be changed to ‘Leaving Britain’s Conversation’. Boom boom. Anyway, do tune in on Wednesday at 4.
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It’s difficult to know what to write about Jeremy Corbyn’s reshuffle that hasn’t already been said. Rarely has so much been written about so little. One person was sacked, one was moved. Big. Effing. Deal. And that took 38 hours to sort out. Corbyn seems to be even more indecisive than Gordon Brown. I was, however, profoundly shocked by one thing – the sacking of Pat McFadden. Corbyn has every right to form his team in his own image and get rid of troublemakers, but to actually tell McFadden he was being sacked for his comments on standing up to terrorists beggared belief. In case you’ve forgotten he stood up in the Commons after the Paris attacks and asked the PM this…

I don’t understand how any sane person could disagree with a word of that. The fact that Jeremy Corbyn does tells you all you need to know and further fuels the Tory narrative that he can’t be trusted with our national security.
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What lessons can we draw from the fact that North Korea claims to have set off a Hydrogen Bomb? Simple. That anyone who continues to support unilateral nuclear disarmament is either not living in the real world, is someone who doesn’t understand the nation’s defence needs, or is a traitor to their country. Or all three.
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Just as a final treat, I interviewed Charles Moore about the second volume of his Margaret Thatcher biography recently. It’s well worth a listen. You can do so by clicking HERE (insert link http://lbc.audioagain.com/player_popup.php?item_id=86390&channel_id=0&user_id=59976&sec_id=523dacf88bde04cd4ebf8b6ca0bc57d6e3da17f8&guid=2016-01/04/3107e3efcb01e7dda40cf8e88d89c8c7 )

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It Shouldn't Happen to a Radio Presenter 43: Interviewing Katie Hopkins

8 Jan 2016 at 13:38

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It Shouldn't Happen to a Radio Presenter 42: How to Lose a Listener

6 Jan 2016 at 20:35

Today we were talking (yet again) about Jeremy Corbyn’s Shadow Cabinet reshuffle. A listener phoned in to tell me how clever he had been, as a Conservative, to vote for Corbyn in the Labour leadership election. I lost my rag a little and told him he was being pathetic. It went downhill from there. In the end he was so flabberghasted that I had taken him on that he went silent and hung up. Not sure he’ll be calling in again, or even listening again. I’m afraid I have absolutely no regrets. The bloke was being a prat and deserved it.

I don’t take callers on like that very often, but sometimes you just have to say what you are thinking and maybe take the consequences. I think the key is to pick your moments appropriately.

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My Interview with Simon Danczuk on the 'Sexting' Scandal

4 Jan 2016 at 22:01

My full, ten minute, interview with Simon Danczuk from today’s LBC Drive show. The reaction on Twitter was highly unusual, with both Danzcuk supporters and opponents commending me for the questions I asked. That doesn’t happen very often.

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My 10 Resolutions for 2016

1 Jan 2016 at 17:09

1. Not to buy a new car.
2. Read more for pleasure, rather than because it’s my job.
3. Do more TV.
4. Go abroad more often.
5. Lose another half a stone in weight.
6. Ditch ‘I Want it That Way’ as my Karaoke song and find another one.
7. Start writing a new book… and think of something to write about.
8. Eat fewer biscuits and cakes.
9. Get into fewer rows on Twitter.
10. Visit Berlin. (Admittedly I vowed to do this in 2013…)

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My Predictions for 2016

31 Dec 2015 at 11:30

This time last year I made my predictions for 2015. I got 8 out of 10 right (see HERE for proof!). Not sure I’ll do as well this year. Here goes…

1. The EU Referendum will be held in July.
2. The ‘Stay’ Campaign will prevail, but by a margin of 55-45 or less.
3. Nigel Farage will not be UKIP leader by the end of 2016.
4. Labour will experience a net loss of council seats in May.
5. Donald Trump will not be the Republican Candidate for President.
6. In terms of seats and/or vote share Labour will come third in the Scottish Parliamentary elections.
7. Arsenal will win the Premier League.
8. Philip Hammond will not be Foreign Secretary by the end of the year.
9. The LibDems are all but wiped out in the GLA, Welsh Assembly & Scottish Parliament elections, retaining less than half of their existing 12 seats in the three bodies.
10. Australian PM Malcolm Turnbull calls an early election and wins an increased majority.

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The Twenty Best or Most Memorable Books I've Published Over the Last Seventeen Years

30 Dec 2015 at 12:00

Back in 1998 I started Politico’s Publishing. I made a very big mistake in 2003 by selling it to Methuen. I thought I had taken it as far as I could and the list would benefit from being part of a bigger company. Wrong, wrong, wrong. Within two months I knew I had done the wrong thing and I left the company. The new owners ran it into the ground and within a short time it ceased to exist in any meaningful way. It is now totally defunct. Five years later I started Total Politics Magazine and within a year we had decided to revive the art of political publishing. There was a gap in the market and I decided to fill it. Again. And so Biteback Publishing was formed. Since then we have published nearly 500 books. I don’t know how many we published at Politico’s in the five years I owned it, but it must have been around 100.

So, to get to the point, I’ve had the bright idea of choosing the top 20 books I have ever published. These aren’t necessarily the best selling ones, or even the best, but they are books which I got a huge satisfaction out of publishing and many would not have made it onto the bookshelves without me taking them on, seeing as virtually all the large publishers have dumbed down to such an extent that they ignore political books nowadays…

When I started Biteback in 2009 part of our mission was to become a monopoly political publisher within five years. We may not publish every political book on the market, but we’ve come pretty damned close in a very short time. So here goes (in no particular order).

Power Trip by Damian McBride

Biteback, 2013
Bearing in mind my history with Damian (I was one of those smeared in ‘Smeargate’ in 2009) many thought it was deeply ironic I published Damian’s story. But I chased him for around 18 months before pen was put to paper on the contract. Damian was an absolute model author. He delivered the cleanest manuscript we had ever received. It almost didn’t need an edit. It has so far proved to be our second best selling book ever, selling more than 25,000 copies.

Here Today Gone Tomorrow by John Nott

Politico’s, 2002
John Nott hadn’t been seen in politics for more or less twenty years but when he approached me to publish his memoirs I was very keen indeed. He proved to be a difficult negotiator on the contract and I remember spending two hours going through it with him line by line. At the end I said to him: “You do realise I haven’t agreed to a single change, don’t you?” “Yes,” he said, “but it’s been good fun, hasn’t it?” I realised he really missed the cut and thrust of politics and business. It was a very honest book and very odd in some ways in that the first chapter was all about his ancestor taking part in the Afghan Wars of the 19th century, and the last was all about his views on supermarkets. But it sold very well, and despite being a cantankerous old bugger, he was a pleasure to deal with.

Fourth Among Equals by Bill Rodgers

Politico’s, 2000
We had a lot of trouble over the title of this book. Bill Rodgers was the least well known of the so-called Gang of Four who launched the SDP, but Bill is a very proud man and took a bit of convincing. It remains one of the best political autobiographies I have ever published and as an author he was a delight to deal with.

Getting out Alive by Roger Mosey

Biteback, 2015
This book was published in July 2015 and I’d class this as one of the most elegantly written books I’ve published. Roger has held virtually every senior post there is to hold at the BBC without actually becoming DG. Given his career path I am astonished that he is one of the nicest people I have ever met. I’d have thought 30 years in the higher echelons in BBC management would have turned him into an egotistical narcissist, but not a bit of it. He hasn’t sought to diss the BBC at all, but despite that this book is a real page turner for anyone who has worked in the media.

Tory Pride & Prejudice by Michael McManus

Biteback, 2011
This history of homosexuality and the Conservative Party remains one of the best books I have published. I wanted to call it QUEER BLUE WATER but Michael wouldn’t have it, and I have a policy of never forcing a title on an author, although this is the closest I have come to it! When I read the manuscript for the first time I rang Michael and told him: “Even if this book never sells a single copy, you should be very proud of writing it.” Its sales figures were very disappointing, but I stick to the view that this book is a fantastic piece of work, which anyone interested in gender politics or the modern history of the Tory Party should read.

Breaking the Code by Gyles Brandreth

Biteback, 2014
I remain of the view that this was the best political book of the 1990s and that’s why I republished it last year in hardback, with a couple of up to date chapters. Even as a £25 hardback reprint it did amazingly well so we then brought out a paperback version this year. Gyles has a brilliant way with words, and these diaries are massively indiscreet and brilliantly written. If you want to understand the Major government, this is a book you simply have to read.

Second Term by Simon Walters

Politico’s Publishing, 2001
I love reading novels with a Westminster based plot, which is why I agreed to publish this book. I don’t really normally publish political fiction because it is a very difficult genre to sell into bookshops and it’s easy to catch a financial cold. But this book was so good – and prophetic as it turned out – I took a big risk with it. In the end it sold out in hardback (2000 copies, which is great for hardback fiction) and Simon went on to get a five figure advance from a publisher which sadly soon went out of business – mainly because they kept paying five figure advances!

You Alone May Live by Mary Blewitt

Biteback, 2010
Back in 2007 I went to Rwanda to report on a Conservative Party social action project. Before I went I met Mary Blewitt, originally from Rwanda but now living in London. Many members of her family had been killed in the 1994 genocide. She accompanied us to Kigali and her story really affected me. In an interview with her we both broke down. Hers was one of the first books I published at Biteback, and although sales were disappointing, her story is incredibly powerful and it is a book I am proud to have published.

When my Husband Does the Dishes by Kerry Sackville

Biteback, 2011
I met Kerry Sackville on a trip to Australia in June 2011 when I interviewed her at 4 in the morning when I was broadcasting my show live back to the UK. She made a real impression on me and her book, which was a bestseller in Australia was brilliantly funny. I signed a two book deal with her, for what was a massive amount of money for us at the time. Sadly neither book did the business for us, but I remain of the view that they deserved to do much better. Somehow the British media just didn’t want to support the book, which is all about the life of a woman with two young children and a husband who does the dishes only when he’s after a bit of rumpy pumpy. One of the lowlights of my publishing career was when Mumsnet demanded £5000 to run an interview with Kerry on their website. They were told where they could stick it.

Prime Minister Portillo & Other Things That Never Happened ed Duncan Brack & Iain Dale

Politico’s Publishing, 2003
I’ve always loved counterfactual history so in 2003 Duncan Brack and I commissioned fifteen or so writers to write a series of essays on political events that might have turned out differently. I wrote the title chapter and wrote it as fiction, rather than an alternate history. The book did reasonably well and it was followed by President Gore and Prime Minister Boris. In mid 2016 we’re publishing Prime Minister Corbyn and Other Things That Never Happened.

Out in the Army by James Wharton

Biteback, 2013
James Wharton was a soldier in the British army, and he was gay. I met James at a function in London and he told me he was writing a book. I was like a rat at a trap and was delighted when he signed up with Biteback. It’s a warts and all story, very moving at very emotional. There’s little doubt that James played a big role in encouraging the upper echelons of the army to think seriously about gay equality and his subsequent celebrity is a mark of the importance of him blazing a trail for others.

Jim Bleat for Prime Minister by Margaret Woodhouse

Politico’s Publishing, 2001
I signed this book up at the 2000 Frankfurt Book Fair from a New Zealand author. She uses the story a sheep to explain politics to young readers. I thought it was a brilliant way of doing it, but sadly British bookshops just couldn’t see it, and nor could schools. We recorded a CD with politicians reading different chapters (including John Redwood, whose ‘baaing’ was magnificent.

Hate by Matthew Collins

Biteback, 2011
Matthew Collins used to a self-confessed racist. He even took part in a violent racist attack. But he then saw the light and renounced his previously held views and became an evangelist for anti-racism views. When he came to see me to suggest the book I was in two minds as to whether it would work, but work it did. His story is very rough and ready. I think in the original manuscript there were 94 ‘fucks’ and 10 ‘cunts’. I insisted they all stayed. Indeed, until I had met Matthew I had never called an author a ‘cunt’ – well not to their faces anyway. His reaction demonstrated to me we were going to get on. And we did. It’s a really important book for anyone wanting to understand and combat racism.

Inside Out by Peter Watt & Isabel Oakeshott

Biteback 2010
This was the biggest book in terms of serialisation and publicity that Biteback published in its first twelve months. It was a very personal story by the man who Gordon Brown effectively sacked as General Secretary of the Labour Party. It was a very quick turnaround. From the day I first met Peter and Isabel to the day of publication was about eight weeks. I love books for which time is the essence. Secrecy was also very important because we knew that the Brown spin machine would burst into action very quickly. When they eventually found out about the book, the day before the serialisation started, they were completely wrongfooted.

Stand Up for Your Manhood by Peter Lloyd

Biteback, 2014
I’ve always thought it was about time someone wrote a book defending men, masculinity and all that goes with it. This is that book. It’s not an anti-feminist book, and it’s not anti-women but what it is is pro men. It’s also very funny. It looks at all sorts of issues men have to cope with and it’s a book that ought to be required reading for any woman wanting to understand men. But then again, so few do!!! Controversial! Peter Lloyd is now editing a new ‘Male’ section of MailOnline. All power to his elbow!

The Welfare State We’re in by James Bartholomew

Politico’s Publishing, 2004
I commissioned this book in my final days at Politico’s and it remains a book I am really proud to say that without me it probably wouldn’t have seen the light of day. It’s sold very well and we’ve now reissued it at Biteback. To question the very essence of the welfare state is considered almost beyond the pale in this country but in this book James Bartholomew cites the evidence which he says proves that many aspects of the welfare state have merely accentuated society’s problems rather than helped solve them. Whether you agree or disagree with his conclusions no one could deny that this is a hugely important book.

When One Door closes by Peter Sissons

Biteback, 2012
Peter Sissons has always been a bit of a broadcasting hero of mine so when he came to me asking me to publish his memoirs I was very keen. I was even keener after I read the draft manuscript as I knew it would create many waves in the media sector. Peter has had a stellar career as a news reporter and news reader. He also has very strong views about how the news sector works, or often doesn’t. He made some very critical comments about the BBC and how it works, and how its news judgement can be defective and at times biased. He knew he would get it in the neck from liberal traditionalists and sure enough, that’s what happened. But they all knew he was right, even if they couldn’t admit it.

Project Fear by Joe Pike

Biteback, 2015
All publishers dream of discovering talented new authors who are brilliant writers, and I feel this is what has happened with Joe Pike. Joe interned at Total Politics and I then worked with him at LBC. He’s now a reporter with Scottish ITV. He approached me with an idea for a retrospective book on the Scottish referendum. To be honest I wasn’t keen and almost turned it down outright, but in the end I asked him to send a couple of sample chapters. They were brilliant. Joe writes non fiction as if it were dramatic fiction. He really knows how to tell a story and his sources were fabulous. This is without a shadow of a doubt the best book I published in 2015.

Call me Dave by Michael Ashcroft & Isabel Oakeshott

Biteback, 2015
For reasons I needn’t explain, this book attracted more publicity and sales than any other in my 17 years of publishing. The four weeks following its newspaper serialisation were somewhat surreal. I was attacked from all sides for publishing a book with a couple of single sourced stories. I mean, the crime. Journalists who should have known better didn’t seem to understand the difference between a book and a newspaper article. Most biographies contain countless stories that are not double sourced, but it seemed this book was always going to be judged in a different light to others.

In My Own Time by Jeremy Thorpe

Politico’s Publishing, 1999
In late 1998 I got a call from someone who said he was Jeremy Thorpe.‘Yeah, right,’ I thought. He was barely audible and spoke in a whisper. Anyway, it did turn out to be the former Liberal leader, a man my mother considered a bit of a hero until the trial of 1979. Thorpe hadn’t ever written a book and had been a bit of a recluse for 25 years. He invited me to his home in Orme Square and we discussed his idea for a book. Truth be told, the book wasn’t that good or revelatory, but the fact he wrote it was news in itself. It also put Politico’s Publishing on the map. John and I became friends with Marion and Jeremy and the six months I spent working with him on the book were fascinating. Despite his advancing Parkinsons Jeremy had lost none of his interest in politics and we had some fascinating conversations. I still treasure those memories.

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Attitude Column: Why Do Gay People Think That Old Age Is For Other People?

22 Dec 2015 at 23:10

I don’t know how many men over the age of seventy read this magazine, but what I do know is that the twenty somethings who read it will have given very little thought to what happens when they get old. In ‘gayworld’, old age is a faraway place which merits very little thought.

Few twinks appear able to see beyond thirty, and view the prospect of anyone over that age having sex as vaguely disgusting. Somehow young gay men have the rather endearing belief that that their youth will be eternal. Sadly, life ain’t like that. Middle age, then old age come around all too quickly.
Gay dating apps are full of profiles from people who trumpet “No over thirties”. “Don’t contact me if you’re old enough to be my father.” OK, everyone has their own tastes, but life doesn’t actually finish at thirty, believe it or not.

A whole generation of gay men are about to enter old age, but what will happen to them?

I was born in 1962, and it’s my generation I’m talking about. I’m lucky. I married the man I love and we look forward to spending our old age together, but there are thousands of gay men in their fifties and sixties who must be wondering what old age has in store for them. Is it a life of total loneliness, with companionship something that only other people enjoy?
I think we are going to see two trends developing in the next twenty years, one of which may provide a unique business opportunity for those of an entrepreneurial bent.

On the south coast there is a care home for retired publishers. In Oxford there is one for retired spooks. I’m sure there are other examples of the genre. Essentially, single pensioners go to live with people of a similar background and interest. These sort of homes are often run by the pension funds, or trade associations of the sector concerned.

Gay retirement homes have existed in the US and Australia for some years. In 2013 France opened its first one, near Montpellier, but in the UK, as far as I am aware, no one has so far grasped the nettle and opened a retirement home, or care home, specifically to cater for a growing gay population.

It’s estimated that there are more than 1.2 million people in the UK who are 55 or over. Many of them, who have been quite open about their sexuality face the prospect of retreating back into the closet in their twilight years, just to counter the likelihood of discrimination in their retirement home.

I think there will also be another interesting social development that may come to the fore, and not just for gay people. Communes were always thought to be the stuff of sixties hippies, who came together to live in big houses. I suspect that to avoid a life of loneliness we will soon find that Communes of relatively well to do middle class single people (and possibly some couples too) will pool their financial resources to buy large houses in the countryside with lots of bedrooms, but also communal living space.

My partner and I have discussed with several friends the prospect of doing this once we finish our working lives, albeit with varying degrees of seriousness.

One gay friend of mine, who isn’t out, but is in his early forties, positively looks forward to such a scenario. He’d love to find the right person to share his life with, but if that fails, he just wants to be loved and to feel safe. Like most of us he wants to live in a place where everyone is loved and cared for – where people look out for you for no other reason than they love and respect you. It’s not too much to ask is it, but I wonder who many single people in their seventies or eighties can truly say they have that nowadays.

No one looks forward to getting old, but neither should anybody fear it. It’s a sad fact that loneliness is one of the greatest afflictions of modern day society, particularly for the elderly. For elderly people who are gay, isolation can be even worse. It’s up to us all to think how to counter that.

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